I always used to find it really diffcult to find time for self care but now I’m making more of an effort and even though it’s early stages, I feel like it’s paying off.
I often find myself clenching my jaw when at work or even when just sitting watching tv and recently I came across an image posted on facebook, I can’t remember exactly what it said, but it was a reminder to let go of extra stress by dropping your shoulders and unclenching your jaw. And I had no idea that I was even doing both of those things until i read that post. So now, this week, I’ve been reminding myself at regular intervals to drop my shoulders, unclench my jaw and relax. Even when sitting at work. I wouldn’t say I’m a particularly stressed person but I do hold all that tension in my jaw and shoulders and it feels good to just let it go and remind myself to relax no matter what I’m doing or where I am.
I’ve also recently discovered how much better I feel in the mornings after I have breakfast before I leave the house for work. I’d been waking up and the car was covered in ice so I’d have to leave earlier to defrost the car or I’d be late for work. So I got myself into the bad habbit of preping my breakfast the night before by putting my cereal into a travel soup bowl so I could just grab it and go to eat it at work. Since it’s not as cold in the mornings anymore, I feel like I have a wee bit more time to have a less rushed morning. The past two weeks I’ve been making a point of sitting down at the dining table to eat my cereal before I leave the house and it really has made me feel better. I’m not rushing as much in the morning, I still get to work on time, I’m not having to eat at my desk whilst working and I’m not having to wash my dishes in the rubbish kitchenette sink. Making more of an effort to start my day off right.
I’ve also been trying to not spend all my evenings on social media. I’m not always successful at this but the good weather has really helped because it means I’ve been sitting outside with a book enjoying the last of the days sunshine.
It also helps to just to the housework so it’s done and out the way. I’ve been working on this one this week.
Next change – making sure I go to bed early, regularly.
Small steps. Big result. Hopefully.
Photo by John Matychuk on Unsplash
I was feeling really bored and uninspired and I felt like I really needed a break. I listened to some Ted talks whilst cooking dinner one night and went into work and requested that Friday and the next Monday off to just chill and have some self care. Scott then also requested those days off and I ended up having a wonderful weekend. My plan was to literally do nothing except to go the cinema one day and see The Greatest Showman. (This plan didn’t happen. I’ve still not seen it.)
On the Friday I got a haircut. I hadn’t had it cut in quite a while and my long hair had been bothering me; always getting caught in everything, taking far too long to dry after washing it, not being able to do anything with it other than put it in a messy bun cause it took so long to do in the mornings. Pinterest is such a great source of inspiration so I went in with a few pictures with a style in mind and came out with it shorter than I had imagined before I went in. I’d been thinking about getting a pixie cut but didn’t think I was brave enough to get that much cut off. My hair is really curly too, so I figured that might be a bit too much work to make it look nice on a daily basis. I had decided I wanted it to be a bit shorter than shoulder length but then whilst in the salon, I changed my mind. I ended up getting 14 inches cut off so I could donate it to The Little Princess Trust. That’s one thing I can mark off my to do list!
We went for lunch to Dobbies where we picked up some bulbs to plant in the front garden to try and make it look a wee bit nicer. The plan was to dig out all the weeds and overgrown plants around the grass over the weekend but it got pretty cold and the ground was frozen so that’ll have to wait.
Saturday morning Scott suggested a wee bit of hillwalking so we climbed Conic Hill. Nothing too intense, just a chilled walk and it was lovely – pretty cold mind you but it was good. On the way home we visited Pets at Home and picked up two new dward hamster friends, which we called Maple and Cashew. After our walk we decided a spa day would be lovely so searched for a deal and noticed the spa nearest to us had a winter deal so booked that for the Sunday. What a lovely relaxing day which ended with a carvery dinner with Scott’s mum.
Monday was a day for food shopping and just relaxing in the house, knitting and playing games. There was an Unlimted screening at Cineworld so we went to see Game Night, which was pretty good. The Beast From the East appeared and it turned out Tuesday was the only day I managed to make it into work this week which basically turned my long weekend into a week and a bit at home. Working from home was great – sitting in my comfies with a cup of tea and my work laptop looking at the crap weather from the window.
A break was just what I needed and it ended up being for longer than expected.
I read a blog a while back which suggested writing a list of small (or large!) goals you wish to achieve in the near future and check them off as you go along and you’ll be able to see your progress and inspire you to achieve more / do more / push yourself etc. I’ve decided that the best time to share this list and watch myself grow is at new year. So instead of resolutions (which I never make anyway), here’s my goals for 2018:
- Go to the cinema by myself
- Start going to the gym / more exercise classes
- Read at least one book a month
- Wear jeans less
- Go camping
- Go on holiday
- Wake up earlier and have a better morning routine
- Have more interesting lunches, especially at work
- See friends more often
- Knit a jumper
- Learn something new
- Grow my hair and donate it to the Little Princess Trust
- Put at least £10 into a savings account each month
- Be more aware of my spending
- Budget better
For my home :
- Replace the windows and door in the front porch
- Grow and eat more vegetables from the garden
- Decorate the living room
- Think about redoing the kitchen
- Less waste
- Use less cling film / use an eco-friendly replacement
I had no idea just how much work our garden would take. My plan was to just repaint the shed and tidy it up a bit – then we realised the shed was completely rotten and held together by duct tape. Disaster.
Since the weather turned a little bit better, we’ve been out doing as much as we can to make it semi-decent. Starting with scarifying the grass, cutting back trees and bushes and de-weeding the soil areas. My goodness, what a mammoth task. Since I dug out all the dead/rotten/rubbish plants, all the soil is looking a little bare. Once we figure out exactly what we’re going to do we will add the plants – no point yet just to maybe dig them out again at a later date. It might look a bit bare but it looks a hell of a lot tidier than it did before!
Sometimes you badly scratch the lenses of your glasses and you’re presented with two options: pay £80 to buy a new pair or pay £80 to get them fixed. Getting them fixed was my initial thought until the woman behind the till told me I’d be without them for 3 weeks. For someone who needs glasses full time, that was definitely not an option.
But it’s okay. Life happens and sometimes your things get damaged. There is absolutely no point in being angry over the unavoidable.
Except it was totally avoidable and I should have had a glasses case and not dropped my specs on the ground, twice.
I haven’t damaged a pair of glasses in a long time so I suppose it was overdue. At least my new ones shouldn’t fall down my face as much.
Here are some things I’ve learned since getting the keys to my first house.
- We need to get up at a reasonable time to open the blinds so people don’t know it’s not being lived in yet
- We need to get up at a reasonable time because my dad and Allan who have been helping us start AT THE CRACK OF DAWN
- Stripping wallpaper is a sweaty horrible mess when steam is involved
- Wood chip wallpaper is the WORST and I will never be decorating any house I own with it ever
- I know how to fill the holes in the walls and prepare them for painting with the use of pollyfilla and gyproc
- Sanding is a messy, messy business. No matter how much you try and contain it, the stuff in the kitchen cupboard downstairs will still be covered in dust.
- One bad game of League or Halo is enough to absolutely enrage Scott when he’s tired or stressed from working in the house.
- You can stop squeaky floorboards by screwing every single one of them down to the rafters. I used about 500 screws in the master bedroom alone. But my goodness, what a difference it made.
- Carpet is expensive
- Christmas time isn’t an ideal time to move house/buy everything you need/only work part time.
- Our elderly neighbours are the nicest people. We popped over to give them a Christmas present and stayed chatting for an hour and a half.
- It’s all really hard work but once it’s all finished it’s definitely worth it.
Here is a list of things that have happened since abruptly leaving my job on Tuesday:
- I had a long lie. On a weekday. And done nothing all day.
- I went to Dundee to visit my sister and bought things to make her new flat feel homely.
- We found a potential new house. Scott and our families went to view it. He called solicitors and we sorted out an agreement in principle.
- I went to Let’s Eat Glasgow and ate some amazing food.
- I had an orange hot chocolate and felt instantly Christmasy.
- I posted my zone card for a refund on the remaining three weeks that I no longer require for my notice period.
- I posted more letters this week than I have in the past few years.
- I tried weetabix and I can’t believe I refused it as a child.
- I tried some beer. Still disgusting.
- I stopped hoarding empty perfume bottles. I really need to get more to replace the finished ones.
- Bullet journalling.
- Played games in a pub for the first time. Who knew staking mini plastic chairs was so fun.